Should Divorced Couples Spend the Holidays Together?

What Should Divorced Couples Do For The Holidays?

The holidays are a magical time that brings people closer together. And as the holidays approach us, you might be wondering if you should spend the holidays with your ex-spouse after divorce, especially if you have children. Whether or not you do so depends on your relationship with your ex and other factors.

The Potential Pros & Cons of Spending the Holidays Together

We know that divorce is complicated and stressful. And the holidays can be emotional too, especially following a divorce. If you’re considering spending the holidays with your ex-spouse, it’s important to know the potential benefits and consequences.

The Potential Benefits

  • Less stress for your children: Having both parents together eliminates the need for traveling back and forth. It allows your children to spend more time doing those holiday activities they love.
  • Improved communication between parents: Spending time together could help you and your ex-spouse learn to communicate better. This can be beneficial for future events and situations.
  • A more relaxed holiday season for you: Without the need to travel around from place to place, you can enjoy a more relaxed holiday season too.

The Potential Consequences

    • Confusion for your children: Your children may think the divorce is over and that you’re considering getting back together.


  • Potential arguments and further hurt: If you and your spouse tend to argue or fight, spending too much time together can lead to further hurt for both parties.

It’s important to note that if you left your spouse due to abuse or another dangerous situation, it might be best to avoid contact. Reach out to your attorney for help when making this decision.

The Decision Is Up to You & Your Ex-Spouse

If you and your ex-spouse are on good terms and simply want to provide your children with a smooth holiday season, spending time together might be a good thing. Yet, if you and your ex-spouse often argue or if you fear spending the holidays together will have negative effects on your children, it might be best to steer clear.

Ultimately, the decision lies between you and your ex-spouse. Whatever you choose, consider speaking to your children ahead of time, so they know what to expect.

Have Questions About Divorce? We Can Help!

Are you considering a divorce? Struggling with the aftermath or a difficult custody order? We can help. Reach out to the attorneys at White & Associates in Elk River. Call us today at 763-241-0477 or send us a message.


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